Your wellbeing

The mental load, mum guilt, burnout, relationships and getting support.

The mental load of motherhood: what is it, and how do you share it?
The mental load is the invisible work of running a family: noticing what needs doing, planning, deciding, remembering and checking that it got done. Read more...
Finding yourself again: who are you besides a mother?
Someone asks what you enjoy and you no longer know. Bloom writes about the loss of identity in motherhood — and how to find yourself again in small steps. Read more...
Arguing in front of the children: harmful, or a chance to learn?
Never argue in front of the children isn't good advice. Bloom explains which arguments harm, which actually teach something, and why the repair matters more than the conflict. Read more...
Grandparents and unwanted advice: setting limits without a row
"You slept on your tummy and you were fine." Bloom gives ways to set limits that leave the relationship intact, and explains which subjects aren't negotiable. Read more...
Blended families: building something new with children involved
Merging two families takes years, not months. Bloom explains why the new partner shouldn't do the disciplining, how to avoid loyalty conflicts and what's realistic. Read more...
Single motherhood: carrying it all on your own
No second adult to take the other half. The practical side of solo parenting, the lack of a break, and where to find concrete support. Read more...
Loneliness in motherhood: why it can feel so quiet with a baby
All day with a child, and still alone. Bloom explains why loneliness in motherhood is so common, why nobody mentions it, and what to do about it. Read more...
Going back to work after a baby: the first months
The first day back after leave is often harder than expected. What to expect, your rights in the UK, US and EU, and why the organisation at home matters as... Read more...
Surviving sleep deprivation as a parent
Everyone advises "sleep when the baby sleeps", and nobody explains how. Bloom explains what chronic sleep deprivation does to you and what genuinely helps when sleeping through isn't happening yet. Read more...
Mum guilt: where it comes from and what helps
Work, and you miss her. Stay home, and you're not doing enough. Bloom explains why that guilt is almost never about anything real, and how to spot it before it... Read more...
Your relationship after a baby: from lovers to colleagues (and back)
All you talk about now is nappies and logistics. Why many couples hit a dip after a baby, what the rows are really about, and what helps. Read more...
Postnatal depression: how it differs from the baby blues, and when to seek help
Postnatal depression is common and treatable. How it differs from the baby blues, the signs to take seriously, and exactly where to turn for help. Read more...
Parental burnout: the signs you shouldn't ignore
Mothers have a high pain threshold. Sometimes too high. The signs of parental burnout — honest, recognisable, with practical steps you can take now. Read more...
Time for yourself as a mother: how to find it when there's none
Every mother knows she should look after herself. But how, when the day is already full? Honest, small ways not to lose yourself in motherhood. Read more...